Finding the right fit

  I often buy shoes simply because I love how they look and fit when I first try them on. Unfortunately, sometimes on the  first or second occasion I wear my “perfect find” only to discover that they are uncomfortable.  Since I do not wish to admit I invested poorly, I usually wear them a few more times – maybe too […]


Happy Independence Day to my American friends. I hate to admit this but I started working on this very day – July 4th – forty six years ago!!! I remember distinctly saying to myself – “this is my independence day”. What “independence” meant to me then was having purchasing power – to buy food, clothing, […]


As a young child when hearing an insult, you may have resorted to saying “Sticks and Stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me.” We know that really isn’t true. We sometimes interpret words in such a way that we are offended by them even in circumstances where the person who said […]

Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself

Are you feeling angry at your spouse for betraying your trust, letting you down, rejecting you, or are you angry at someone else who has  “wronged” you? Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than on that which it is poured. (Seneca)   What are you […]

Your True Value

I have used the following demonstration in the past for my Divorce Recovery Workshops and I want to share it with you today, just in case your self-worth seems to be under attack. I hold up a $100 bill (this was when our $100 bill was paper) and ask the participants “What is this bill […]

We learn from our mistakes – or do we?

As Parents, we want to guide and lead our children to make wise choices and it simply frustrates us to no end that they won’t listen to our advice.  We tell ourselves that we know better and because we love our children , we want to spare them the pain.  Truth be told, we want […]